3 Tips To Enjoy Your Preemie

  

I wanted to share with you three tips on how to enjoy your wonderful gift! 

1) Just laugh at everything 

2) Laugh some more

3) If all else fails follow tip #1 

  

“She’s Not A Client, She’s Family”

Bayada Nurse Sonya(left) smiles at Madison at the nurse of the year celebration where she received a award for taking care of Madison for over 365 days with missing a day or running late
Bayada Nurse Sonya (left) plays with Madison (right) at the Nurse of the Year (Hero of the Quarter) celebration breakfast where Sonya received an award for providing exemplary nursing care to Madison for over the last year without missing a day or running late.

Seven Steps for A Stay At Home Father To Keep His Sanity

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Staying at home with my daughter has been challenging beyond beief.  We as men are designed to be providers for our families since the beginning of time but what happens when the roles replace due to circumstances? What happens when the parents play a position that they aren’t created for?

Tension, arguing and even resentment can build within what was once a fairy tail union.  What do you say to someone asks you “What do you do for a living”? Silence!!! Then you automatically blurt out the lyrics to the Chica morning show that you watch with your baby!  How do you even plan your day with trying to be productive? See there is no hand book for this, only life experience! so to the new fathers dealing with these unforeseen situations I’m here to share with you my current experiences and what currently works for me.  Lets touch briefly on somethings that your going to deal with that nobody is going to share with you in the NICU once you get your little one home after they past that 90 min carseat test.  Thats right I said it!! 90 minutes!!

One of the biggest things that your going to deal with in being a graduate of the NICU and being home is time management, how to reach your financial obligations and how to keep your head on straight. When it comes to time management the best thing that you can do is develop a schedule that you can abide by on a daily and monthly bases depending on the condition of your preemie.  Be sure to include exercise, a proper diet, time to work if your self employed, or time to brainstorm so you can come up with ideas to generate some income to the household, time for yourself will be all so important and don’t forget date night! That damn date night is the reason you got in this in the first place. So in all honesty there won’t be any conjugal dating in the near future.  So you been warned!!

Here are some tips that will help you keep sane through out this process and if you have any questions about how to get through certain things feel free to contact me and I will give you my suggestions and tell you how I handled them accordingly.  Helpful Tips

#1 SLEEP WHEN THEY SLEEP– It speak for its self! Don’t try to handle things when your preemie is  resting. It will only frustrate you when they wake up and you can’t get back to do what you were doing!

#2 EXERCISE AT LEAST 45 MIN DAILY– Combined with a healthy diet this will help you in the long run. Theres nothing like gaining 30 lbs in 3months because your home with the baby and your eating when they eat.  Then the cycle starts. Depression creaps in slowing followed by the thoughts of where did my life go and then you start eating more to ease the pain.. Been there done that!!

#3 EAT HEALTHY– The food that you eat will affect your decision making and your agility! Your mind will play tricks on you if you keep putting junk in your body. Trust me depression is real. Been there and done that

#4 MAKE MONEY– Find ways to make money at home using your computer. There are websites out there that will help you sale things that you don’t need anymore such as Ebay and Pintrest. There also websites that allow you to sell things that you have created such as  Etsy 

#5 JOIN SUPPORT GROUPS– I speak to men on a monthly basis at the Dads and Diapers support group for the March of Dimes of Delaware and its refreshing to the men to see that there are other men going through the same thing.

#6 SHARE YOUR STORY– Be sure to share as much as you can but stay away from being negative. Speak about the happy moments, the love you have for your little one, the time when you first say that amazing face.

#7 TIME FOR YOURSELF– You and your lady both will need that extra time away from everything. Understand that it’s normal to want to get away! Take the necessary time that you need to do what you enjoy. But keep in mind that you will have to go back home at some point. Call a buddy and just hangout or go and become one with nature. Hey, whatever your into, do it! Time away is very important and not to be missed.

Hopefully this message in a bottle reached you and now your plugging away at making some positive strides in creating everything that you need to have your days planned out ahead for you and your little miracle. Enjoy and remember that you will always be their superman!

3 TIPS TO RESTART YOUR LIFE INSTANTLY

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1) FIND OUT WHAT YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS ARE

 So many people go through this thing called life aimlessly by living moment by moment, second by second and day to day, you know just going with the flow.  Instead of that decide what would make you feel like you have accomplished your life’s purpose.  Be sure to write down  your Goals and Dreams with every step that you need to get your life back

2) THE RUBBER BAND TRICK

This is one way I use to rid myself of those negative thoughts that were hurting my life.  Place a rubber band  or two around your wrist and snap it against your skin anytime a negative thought finds its way into your head. This technique associates a slight pain with negative thoughts.  Sounds a little cruel at first but it only stings for a good second. I also used this  operant conditioning technique to stop eating red meat. The outcome is simply amazing. Remember the goal is to have only positive thoughts and recreate your life.

3) FORGIVENESS

This is so important if you want to succeed in getting your life back.  There is no possible way for you to live the life you want if you don’t forgive the people that wronged you.  See, when you forgive others you spiritually let a lot of pain in your own life.  So take some time out of your day and call  whoever you need to and tell them that you forgive them!!

These are some tips that I have learned in my own life that I wanted to share with you so you can conquer your life just as I conquered mine.  

Live, Love & Laugh